The silver lining when bad things happen is being able to value the good things even more when they come.
When it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel because it's foggy, smells bad, and claustrophobia kicks in, don't give in to the drowning sensation--don't panic.
If feeling jaded and aghast at the things that have happened, sure they should have happened differently, remember free will moves things through different paths.
One day the opportunity will come to glance at the shadows of the past from a sunny outcropping and realize there was a reason.
Learn to let go, and let God.
“...don’t you realize that there are miles of beach and thousands of starfish...You can’t possibly make a difference!” The young man bent down and picked up another starfish, throwing it into the sea “It made a difference for that one.”