I'm currently raptly reading the book titled Outside In, Inside Out. Women's Psychology: A Feminist Psychoanalytic Approach by Luise Eichenbaum and Susie Orbach. This is my favorite quote in the book, so far (pp.28):
"These features of women's social role, growing into a woman (with attendant conditioning), finding a mate, becoming a wife, learning to take care of babies, and making a home involve extensive social preparation. They are not inevitable consequences of women's biology. In order to find a man a woman has to present herself in a certain way. She has to develop her sexuality along particular lines; she has to create an image of herself that a man will find pleasing. This is a complex social matter, not at all a straightforward 'natural' process."