"You need everyone's eyes just to feel seen" Mike Posner, Cooler Than Me
This realization goes against what I originally thought about these people. They seem independent and capable. But if you think of a line ranging codependency from passive on the left (dependent) to aggressive people on the right (competitive/arrogant), you'll find just how true this is. Just a new flava of the same ole thang.
The reality is that competitive/arrogant people are co-dependent because without an audience, without being seen, without a victim, they're not able to keep going they way they have.
So play your part: don't enable a co-dependent person. You'll only get hurt.